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Supporting Married Couples
Unfortunately the culture of our city does not help cultivate us to live as Kingdom citizens — whether we're married or single. We are taught in our culture that romance will solve all of our problems; and that if you get into a relationship and you don’t feel it anymore, then just get out and move on.
So how do we as a church cultivate a different culture, one that values being faithful as disciples over seeking a particular relationship status?
This last Sunday (which also happened to be Valentine’s Day) we talked about Singleness & Marriage. Yesterday on our blog, we looked at how we can support singles; today we'll focus on how we can support married couples in our church, and I want to get really practical.
I’m convinced that the enemy loves to take out marriages in this city, through the extremely fast pace of life and the pressure that work exerts on all other life commitments. We want to counter that culture and be known as a church where marriages can be strengthened and healed.
Here are three ways we are committed to supporting marriages:
1) Prepare for marriage
We do a workshop every few months called Prepare & Enrich. We just had about 15 couples gather last Saturday for a time of training and equipping. They take an online assessment and then get coached to work on things like communication, finances, roles, expectations, and their spiritual life together. This is applicable to any couple but especially if you are thinking of getting engaged or preparing for marriage.
Our next one will be on April 30th. RSVP HERE. They fill up!
2) Strengthen marriages
We are excited that we will be having our first ever marriage retreat this summer. It will be July 25-27th (Mon-Wed) in Annapolis, MD. Stephen James, marriage and family therapist and author, will be our speaker. Space is limited to the first 30 couples so if you are interested please email Amy [ ] and we’ll get you more details about the schedule and costs.
This will be a great time to invest in your relationship as a couple. It will be like a getaway, but with equipping and training along the way, and some opportunities to experience community and friendship with other couples in the church.
If you want to have a healthy marriage, just like if you want to have a healthy body, you have to invest in it along the way. I strongly encourage you to come to this. You can’t put a price on the importance of investing time and money into the most important human relationship in your life.
3) Save marriages
For some of you, if you are really, brutally honest with yourself, your marriage is in trouble. Maybe there has been infidelity. Maybe financial pressure that has created daily stress. Maybe trust has been broken and communication has broken down. You are just crossing paths and you feel more like you are roommates than you are husband and wife. And you are looking at where things are now and where they are headed and you realize that this relationship is going to end in tears if something doesn’t change soon.
If you are in that place today, first I want you to know that you are not alone. There are many people who are in the same shoes, who are battling the same misunderstanding and broken trust that you are dealing with. There are a lot of marriages that the Enemy is targeting and trying to take out. Marriage is the foundation for family and for so much of society and the Enemy is strategic; he knows what to go after. The Bible says that the Enemy prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
Second, I want you to know that you can get help. Wherever you are in your relationship today does not have to be where you are tomorrow. Our church is full of story after story of marriages that were on the rocks and experienced transformation, resurrection, new birth.
There is one common ingredient that leads to a turnaround — both couples are willing and committed to work on the marriage. Research shows you can get through just about anything in marriage if both people are willing to do the work. There is no sin too great to overcome. Our God is able.
Something that has really worked for thousands of couples are “marriage intensives,” where you go away with your spouse for about a week with some other couples and receive in-depth professional counseling. When trust has been broken or your marriage is on the rocks, you don’t need to go to the clinic, you need to go to the emergency room and be admitted to the hospital. Going to counseling once a week is nice, but what you really need is a safe environment to go really deep really quick, and be surrounded by Christ centered professionals.
Like most really good things, these are not cheap. It costs several thousands dollars. But we as a church want to offer scholarships for the first three couples that come forward. And if there are more, we will find a way to raise more money. We don’t want anything to stand in the way of you getting help.
So if you are here today and you need resurrection in your marriage, please contact Amy [ ] and we will follow up with you so we can pray for you and see if this marriage intensive would be right for you.
Whatever your relationship status is, I want you to know that you are not alone and you can get help.