We were created for relationship, with God and with one another. We were made to love and be loved, to know and be known, to see and be seen. In Genesis, before the Fall, it says that Adam and Eve were "naked and unashamed" — completely vulnerable with one another and completely accepted.
But sin warps every one of us and every relationship, and we experience this in the ways we hurt and are hurt by one another, in the ways we abuse and are abused by one another, in the ways we treat each other as discardable and disposable or simply as a means to our own satisfaction.
Jesus came to show us a better way, the way we were intended to live and love. Jesus came so that we might be restored to our original way of being — finding our fulfillment first and fully in God, and out of that, offering unconditional love to all.
But let's be honest: navigating the field of romantic relationships in the technological age is tricky. Whether we are single, dating, married, or divorced, we all face the challenge of figuring out what it looks like to live and love the Jesus way.
We've compiled the following resources, books, and links to assist you on the journey. We hope they're helpful!
Sermon Series: To Love & Be Loved
Sermon Series: 7 Deadly Sins
- Justin B. Fung. "Lust." August 10, 2014.
Articles & Blogs
- Paige Benton Brown. "Singled Out by God for Good." PCPC Witness, February 1998.
- Debra K. Fileta. "Why Are So Many Christians Afraid of Dating?" Relevant Magazine, June 16, 2015.
- Justin B. Fung. "Christian Single." Adapted from the sermon "Being Single."
- Justin B. Fung. "How do I know whom and how to date?" justinbfung.com, May 6, 2014.
- Justin B. Fung. "My Valentine's Day History, a.k.a. A Few Thoughts on Love." justinbfung.com, February 14, 2012.
- Eddie Kaufholz. "Can I Date a Non-Christian?" Relevant Magazine, May 5, 2014.
- Sharon Hodde Miller. "The Myth of Perfect Dating." Relevant Magazine, May 7, 2013.
- Nicole Unice. "How Should Christians Date?" Relevant Magazine, October 23, 2012.
- Ray Anderson. On Being Human: Essays in Theological Anthropology.
- Jack O. Balswick and Judith K. Balswick. A Model for Marriage: Covenant, Grace, Empowerment and Intimacy.
- Judith K. Balswick and Jack O. Balswick. Authentic Human Sexuality: An Integrated Christian Approach.
- Rob Bell. Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections Between Sexuality and Spirituality.
- Gary Chapman. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.
- Henry Cloud & John Townsend. Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships.
- Henry Cloud & John Townsend. Boundaries in Marriage.
- Richard J. Foster. The Challenge of the Disciplined Life: Christian Reflections on Money, Sex & Power.
- Kim Gaines Eckert. Things Your Mother Never Told You: A Woman's Guide to Sexuality.
- John Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert.
- John Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver. What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal.
- Jonathan Grant. Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationships in a Hypersexualized Age.
- Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples.
- Debra Hirsch. Redeeming Sex: Naked Conversations About Sexuality and Spirituality.
- Tim Keller and Kathy Keller. The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God.
- Lisa McMinn. Sexuality and Holy Longing: Embracing Intimacy in a Broken World.
- Ben Patterson. Waiting: Finding Hope When God Seems Silent.
- Margaret Kim Peterson and Dwight N. Peterson. Are You Waiting for "The One"? Cultivating Realistic, Positive Expectations for Christian Marriage.
- Stephen W. Simpson. What Women Wish You Knew About Dating: A Single Guy's Guide to Romantic Relationships.
- Lewis B. Smedes. Sex for Christians: The Limits and Liberties of Sexual Living.
- Lauren Winner. Real Sex: The Naked Truth About Chastity.
- H. Norman Wright. Now That You're Engaged: The Keys to Building a Strong, Lasting Relationship.